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The Jealousy Accusation

It seems like this is a common reaction when a person is questioned about someone/something that is important to them. Often times, I think it's due to the fact that deep down, they know there's probably some truth to the other's question/statement.

For example, have you ever run into this kind of scenario? A friend of yours is dating someone and you observe their date messing around with someone else and you're honest with your friend about this? Many times, this is the reaction I'll hear - "You know what? You're just jealous! You just don't have what X and I have and you're jealous!"

I'll even hear this from die-hard fans of a certain celebrity(-ies). I remember reading a few comments about comedian Dane Cook and how they didn't think he was funny. His fans' reaction? "You're just jealous. You don't have his kind of talent, wish you could, so yeah, you're just jealous!"

In some cases, this may be true, but I have a hunch these very cases are in the minority. Especially when it comes to celebrities, I don't know anyone who likes EVERY musician, every movie star, every comedian, every athlete. There is almost always at least one such star that we don't care for as far as their "talents" go. Because I never cared for the boy bands, that makes me jealous of them? Eh... I didn't care for them musically, felt they were lyrically lazy and felt it was kind of a sad testament to the condition of the music scene on a whole. Sure, a majority of them were semi-attractive and I can admit that. But musically or lyrically speaking? I can't say I was impressed.

As far as the other scenario goes, I would never lie to a friend about their relationship out of jealousy. Why in the world would any genuine friend do that? Sure, I might be slightly envious of a couple's times together, of their intimacy, etc., but it's not going to make me feel better to disrupt their relationship. I'd never want to do that. I'd want for me what they share with one another. Taking away from their relationship will not provide me with what I sought for myself in a similar relationship.

Jealousy is a powerful and distracting emotion. There are times when I can understand a person's being jealous, but I can't for the life of me understand why a person would attempt to disrupt another's life or pretend to dislike an entertainer out of pure jealousy. Maybe I'm wrong, but it wouldn't make a bit of sense to me.

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