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My hypothesis to the before-mentioned discomfort around a person

So, I think I have it figured out...maybe. Not that anyone other than me cares, but eh, whatever. I recently wrote about someone I've grown uncomfortable to be around and have felt for a long while, pretty much since we met, that he hasn't cared for me much and over time, this dislike for me has only grown.

I don't want to come across as arrogant, but pretty much everyone at this place loves me, including his wife. Whenever I enter, I get a bunch of hugs and kisses. People buy me drinks like it's my birthday. I've even had my full tab paid for on a few occasions, sometimes by people whom I would have called strangers before the night started. I seem to bring a certain life to the place that is absent when I'm not there. His wife will even text me telling me to come down there, because it's boring. I'll bring little gadgets or joke-material which gets a laugh out of just about everyone except for him. I'll circulate the place, talk to and get along with everyone, raising their spirits in the process. He's also cognizant that he and I are on opposite sides of the political spectrum and that I'm well read. I'm also often approached by rather attractive women, propositioned by many of them and reject all of the propositions, because I just don't do the one-night stand thing.

So, I think the guy is a little intimidated and jealous. Who knows, perhaps he thinks his wife kind of LIKES me. She and I seem to get along better than the two of them. I'm pretty easy going, will do just about anything to stimulate a laugh, yet will also give a listening ear (two of them, in fact, and no, not literally), and I can talk to and get along with just about anyone. He's extremely serious, doesn't kid around much, doesn't listen all too much either and while his wife is the outgoing one, he's much more reserved.

Anymore, I think I just have to approach conversations with him keeping all the before-mentioned in mind. If he raises his voice, attempts to insult me, attempts to de-legitimize a position I hold on a subject, etc., I have to realize that he's probably doing that out of insecurity than anything else, knowing that deep down, I probably researched matters and am right and touched on a sore spot of his, a belief that had lodged deep inside his core and doesn't want shattered.

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