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Weeding out the negative influences in life

Negative people, negative influences can seem like weeds at times, as just when you think you've gotten rid of them, they come back. Then there typically comes a time when you think, "How much harm are they really doing? If I just stop initiating anything, perhaps they'll eventually just go away." When that doesn't work and they continue to call or text (the people, not the weeds), you then try to just ignore them, thinking they'll eventually get the hint. Some may eventually give up, but there's always that one extremely persistent weed. No matter what you spray on it, no matter how deep the root is you pull out, it peeks its ugly face at you the next time you venture out to your garden.

I've run into just this situation a number of times, especially of late it seems, and I have to admit, it's sometimes difficult to remain persistent in fighting against these negative influences. When they realize they're on the verge of losing what they thought was a friend and they start lashing out, it'd be easy to try and fight back. If they call once in a great while, it'd be tempting to answer, thinking, "Haven't heard from them in a while. Catching up wouldn't kill me." If you're feeling lonely and want to get out and do something and they text you, asking if you want to do just that, it'd be common to think take them up on it. If you truly want to rid yourself of these nasty weeds in your life, you can't do that. You have to stay strong. You can't give in to temptation, for if you do, that'll just elongate the weeds' stay in your garden, further corrupting it in the process.

No matter how lonely you are; no matter how guilty you may feel for not replying or for telling someone off; no matter your history with a negative individual, it does no good to continue allowing them to linger around in your life. Spending one night alone when you aspire to go out is just one bad night. Spending that night with a negative individual who has reeked havoc on your life on a number of occasions and allowing them to continue doing so for the foreseeable future can and will likely result in many bad nights, weeks, months, and even years to come. Stay true to yourself and cut people like this off, before they inflict so much pain and damage upon you, it distorts your identity and future.

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