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The one thing you never tell a guy...

You can tell a guy to shut-up, f*ck off, that he's an idiot, but there's one thing should never, under any circumstance, say to him: To man up. I was told this for the first time in my 37 years the other day, and while it's difficult to rile me, that got my blood boiling (figuratively, of course).

The phrase man up is incredibly sexist to both genders. What's the opposite of that? Woman down? What in hell does that mean? A woman should be entirely submissive and obey her man's every wish? What year is this again? The phrase also paints an incredibly stereotypical, old-school mindset, where men are seen as the providers, the stronger of the two sexes, assertive, powerful, and rich. If a male cries, even after his mother passes away, that's not acceptable and he needs to "man up." On the opposite end, if a woman doesn't cry during such an occasion, she's seen as unladylike, meaning there has to be something seriously wrong with her. I'm sorry, but this is complete and total bullsh*t.

First thing's first, men and women are both incredibly strong, often in different ways. Just because a male bodybuilder might be able to lift more than a female bodybuilder, that doesn't make him stronger. Let's see him give birth to a child and then we can make more reasonable comparisons between the two. Also, there's absolutely nothing wrong with a man crying or with a woman taking charge. These sexist attitudes, while having improved over the decades, are still very much present and preventing many from truly finding themselves, discovering what they want out of life, and ultimately being happy. Men often still have troubles exhibiting sensitivity and empathy, which leads many of them to develop addictions to drugs, alcohol, and gambling, not to mention poor, perhaps abusive, relationships. Women often still have issues finding a balance between being seen as physically appealing and CEO-aspiring, which leads many of them to develop eating disorders, depression, and suicide, not to mention poor relationships. No one should be made to feel inferior because a trait or hobby of theirs doesn't coincide with decades-old stereotypes. So if anyone happens to tell you to man up or woman down, just know it's them who needs to do some growing up of their own.

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