I joined a site a while back upon moving to the area, as I had lived in Nebraska for 26 years and didn't know anyone around here. I was seeking friendships at first, but having lived here for 4 years and working at home, I'm now open to other things.
On the site, people can answer a variety of questions, pertaining to: Dating, sex, lifestyle, ethics and "others" (whatever that means). I earned degrees in psychology, so naturally, I find it interesting to study/learn about people.
There are thousands of questions and some of them, especially pertaining to sex, are very strange. One asks if you're serious about someone and they admit to liking to pee on their partner when fooling around, how would it effect your feelings/the relationship on a whole. No, I'm not making this up. I may be very creative, but not even I would think of that. I had to laugh at that question, because part of me thinks it can't be serious. It sounds like it could take place in a porn satire.
There are two questions I've come across which I don't want to take seriously, but after seeing people respond "yes" to them, I can't help but do so and it disturbs the hell out of me.
The questions are: "Would you ever role-play a rape?" and "Do you ever fantasize about rape?" Some people have actually answered yes to these questions.
I read/heard different opinions on the matter. Some said, "That sounds hot! Giving someone total control/Taking total control. He/She's kinky!" Others talked about it just being a fantasy and there's nothing wrong with that, since it's not reality.
Do the people who answered "yes" to this/these questions know what rape actually is? Webster defines it as, "the unlawful compelling of a person through physical force orduress to have sexual intercourse." If two people role-play, the sex would likely be consensual, correct? If the sex is consensual, it's literally impossible to role-play that which is not consensual - rape. What, with this role-playing, does the woman's clothes get torn to shreds? Does she have bruises on her? Does she feel violated, used, dirty and guilty afterward? Does she go to the police, see a shrink, get medicated, struggle to get close to a man again for a while? Does she cry many nights, feeling an emptiness inside, become depressed and perhaps even suicidal? Is her trust for/with men forever shattered? Is she paranoid about going out at night or to certain places? No, I'm guessing when these people answered "yes" to role-playing rape, they didn't take into account what all a person goes through when he/she has been raped and I find it utterly revolting that some people believe they could garner pleasure from acting this very scenario out.
Perhaps I have a sore spot for this sort of thing. I know some people very dear and close to me who have been raped or sexually abused in some manner. I've seen/heard the pain and anguish they all have gone through. Years and years have passed for many of them, yet that one moment still plays a very active role in how they think, feel and act. Now, I'm all for role-playing with someone in whom I'm seriously involved, but if a woman brought up the idea of role-playing a rape, I'd be completely turned off, utterly disgusted and don't even think I'd be able to date her again.
I think some people may view the word "rape" in this context and define it as "rough sex" or "someone taking control in the bedroom". If that's the case, then fine, but just spell it out. The big difference is, rough sex or someone taking control in the bedroom can still be consensual and most times is. Rape is never consensual (statutory rape being the possible exception in some cases).
I just don't know how someone can take rape so lightly. It's a serious crime. It's a serious violation of a person in multiple ways. How could a person fantasize or get off by fantasizing about/role-playing the act? It's nauseating me to think that's even possible. Whenever I hear the word "rape," I think about the people close to me who have been victim to this atrocious act and it sickens me to think that another can get off by pretending to partake in the act that forever stripped these women of their innocence.
On the site, people can answer a variety of questions, pertaining to: Dating, sex, lifestyle, ethics and "others" (whatever that means). I earned degrees in psychology, so naturally, I find it interesting to study/learn about people.
There are thousands of questions and some of them, especially pertaining to sex, are very strange. One asks if you're serious about someone and they admit to liking to pee on their partner when fooling around, how would it effect your feelings/the relationship on a whole. No, I'm not making this up. I may be very creative, but not even I would think of that. I had to laugh at that question, because part of me thinks it can't be serious. It sounds like it could take place in a porn satire.
There are two questions I've come across which I don't want to take seriously, but after seeing people respond "yes" to them, I can't help but do so and it disturbs the hell out of me.
The questions are: "Would you ever role-play a rape?" and "Do you ever fantasize about rape?" Some people have actually answered yes to these questions.
I read/heard different opinions on the matter. Some said, "That sounds hot! Giving someone total control/Taking total control. He/She's kinky!" Others talked about it just being a fantasy and there's nothing wrong with that, since it's not reality.
Do the people who answered "yes" to this/these questions know what rape actually is? Webster defines it as, "the unlawful compelling of a person through physical force orduress to have sexual intercourse." If two people role-play, the sex would likely be consensual, correct? If the sex is consensual, it's literally impossible to role-play that which is not consensual - rape. What, with this role-playing, does the woman's clothes get torn to shreds? Does she have bruises on her? Does she feel violated, used, dirty and guilty afterward? Does she go to the police, see a shrink, get medicated, struggle to get close to a man again for a while? Does she cry many nights, feeling an emptiness inside, become depressed and perhaps even suicidal? Is her trust for/with men forever shattered? Is she paranoid about going out at night or to certain places? No, I'm guessing when these people answered "yes" to role-playing rape, they didn't take into account what all a person goes through when he/she has been raped and I find it utterly revolting that some people believe they could garner pleasure from acting this very scenario out.
Perhaps I have a sore spot for this sort of thing. I know some people very dear and close to me who have been raped or sexually abused in some manner. I've seen/heard the pain and anguish they all have gone through. Years and years have passed for many of them, yet that one moment still plays a very active role in how they think, feel and act. Now, I'm all for role-playing with someone in whom I'm seriously involved, but if a woman brought up the idea of role-playing a rape, I'd be completely turned off, utterly disgusted and don't even think I'd be able to date her again.
I think some people may view the word "rape" in this context and define it as "rough sex" or "someone taking control in the bedroom". If that's the case, then fine, but just spell it out. The big difference is, rough sex or someone taking control in the bedroom can still be consensual and most times is. Rape is never consensual (statutory rape being the possible exception in some cases).
I just don't know how someone can take rape so lightly. It's a serious crime. It's a serious violation of a person in multiple ways. How could a person fantasize or get off by fantasizing about/role-playing the act? It's nauseating me to think that's even possible. Whenever I hear the word "rape," I think about the people close to me who have been victim to this atrocious act and it sickens me to think that another can get off by pretending to partake in the act that forever stripped these women of their innocence.
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