Skip to main content

Kudos to Kyle Korver!

NBA sharp-shooting veteran Kyle Korver recently wrote a column entitled "Privileged" and I felt the need to talk about it here today.

Since I feel Korver's article is of great significance, I'm going to share and dissect the entire piece. Here's how it starts:

"When the police break your teammate's leg, you'd think it would wake you up a little.

When they arrest him on a New York street, throw him in jail for the night, and leave him with a season-ending injury, you'd think it would sink in. You'd think you'd know there was more to the story.

You'd think.

But nope."

A good, intriguing start to the article, as Korver hooks the reader with a sense of mystery and comes at things from a rather personal perspective. Let's continue...

"I still remember my reaction when I first heard what happened to Thabo. It was 2015, late in the season. Thabo and I were teammates on the Hawks, and we'd flown into New York late after a game in Atlanta. When I woke the next morning, our team group text was going nuts. Details were still hazy, but guys were saying, 'Thabo hurt his leg? During an arrest? Wait - he spend the night in jail?! Everyone was pretty upset and confused.

Well, almost everything. My response was..... different. I'm embarrassed to admit it.

Which is why I want to share it today"


Korver continues to draw us in, but come on, already! Okay, I'll try to be patient. Go on...

"Before I tell the rest of the story, let me just say real quick - Thabo wasn't some random teammate of mine, or some guy in the league who I knew a little bit. We'd become legitimate friends that year in our downtime. He was my go-to teammate to talk with about stuff beyond the basketball world. Politics, religion, culture, you name it - Thabo brought a perspective that wasn't typical of an NBA player. And it's easy to see why: Before we were teammates in Atlanta, the guy had played professional ball in France, Turkey and Italy. He spoke three languages! Thabo's mother was from Switzerland, and his father was from South Africa. They lived together in South Africa before Thabo was born, then left because of apartheid.

It didn't take long for me to figure out that Thabo was one of the most interesting people I'd ever been around. We respected each other. We were cool, you know? We had each other's backs."

Okay, I get the feeling he's FINALLY going to come out with it. Hopefully our patience is rewarded - well, those of us who made it this far anyway.

"Anyway - on the morning I found out that Thabo had been arrested, want to know what my first thought was? About my friend and teammate? My first thought was: 'What was Thabo doing out at a club on a back-to-back??'

Yeah. Not, 'How's he doing?' Not, 'What happened during the arrest??' Not, 'Something seems off with this story.' Nothing like that. Before I knew the full story, and before I'd even had the chance to talk to Thabo..... I sort of blamed Thabo.

I thought, 'Well, if I'd been in Thabo's shoes, out at a club late at night, the police wouldn't have arrested me. Not unless I was doing something wrong.'

Cringe.

It's not like it was a conscious thought. It was pure reflex - the first thing to pop into my head.

And I was worried about him, no doubt.

But still. Cringe."

Cringe indeed, but Korver does illustrate feelings of guilt and remorse, so I'm thinking, as former President Obama used to call such occasions, this could wind up being a teachable moment for him.

"A few months later, a jury found Thabo not guilty on all charges. He settled with the city over the NYPD's use of force against him. And then the story just sort of..... disappeared. It fell away from the news. Thabo had surgery and went through rehab. Pretty soon, another NBA season began - and we were back on the court again.

Life went on.

But I still couldn't shake my discomfort.

I mean, I hadn't been involved in the incident. I hadn't even been there. So why did I feel like I'd let my friend down?

Why did I feel like I'd let myself down?"

Now we're getting into deep reflection, something I think more people should do - especially whites in this country.

"A few weeks ago, something happened at a Jazz home game that brought back many of those old questions.

Maybe you saw it: We were playing against the Thunder, and Russell Westbrook and a fan in the crowd exchanged words during the game. I didn't actually see or hear what happened, and if you were following on TV or on Twitter, maybe you had a similar initial viewing of it. Then, after the game, one of our reporters asked me for my response to what had gone down between Russ and the fan. I told him I hadn't seen it - and added something like, 'But you know Russ. He gets into it with the crowd a lot.'

Of course, the full story came out later that night. What actually happened was that a fan had said some really ugly things at close range to Russ. Russ had then responded. After the game, he'd said he felt the comments were racially charged.

The incident struck a nerve with our team."

How I wish such incidents struck more of a nerve with the general public, but I digress...

"In a closed-door meeting with the president of the Jazz the next day, my teammates shared stories of similar experiences they'd had - of feeling degraded in ways that went beyond acceptable heckling. One teammate talked about how his mom had called him right after the game, concerned for his safety in SLC. One teammate said the night felt like being 'in a zoo.' One of the guys in the meeting was Thabo - he's my teammate in Utah now. I looked over at him, and remembered his night in NYC.

Everyone was upset. I was upset - and embarrassed, too. But there was another emotion in the room that day, one that was harder to put a finger on. It was almost like..... disappointment, mixed with exhaustion. Guys were just sick and tired of it all.

This wasn't the first time they'd taken part in conversations about race in their NBA careers, and it wasn't the first time they'd had to address the hateful actions of others. And one big thing that got brought up a lot in the meeting was how incidents like this - they weren't only about the people directly involved. This wasn't only about Russ and some heckler. It was about more than that.

It was about what it means just to exist right now - as a person of color in a mostly white space.

It was about racism in America.

Before the meeting ended, I joined the team's demand for a swift response and a promise from the Jazz organization that it would address the concerns we had. I think my teammates and I all felt it was a step in the right direction.

But I don't think anyone felt satisfied."

How representative is that of most political issues, at least from a progressive's perspective? Whether it be gun laws, healthcare, criminal justice reform, climate-change, etc., while most of us may feel a particular bill is a step in the right direction, we're not fully satisfied, because we feel more could and should have been done.

"There's an elephant in the room that I've been thinking about a lot over these last few weeks. It's the fact that, demographically, if we're being honest: I have more in common with the fans in a crowd at your average NBA game than I have with the players on the court.

And after the events in Salt Lake City last month, and as we've been discussing them since, I've really started to recognize the role those demographics play in my privilege. It's like - I may be Thabo's friend, or Ekpe's teammate, or Russ's colleague; I may work with those guys. And I absolutely 100% stand with them.

But I look like the other guy.

And whether I like it or not? I'm beginning to understand how that means something.

What I'm realizing is, no matter how passionately I commit to being an ally, and no matter how unwavering my support is for NBA and WNBA players of color..... I'm still in this conversation from the privileged perspective of opting in to it. Which of course means that on the flip side, I could just as easily opt out of it. Every day, I'm given that choice - I'm granted that privilege - based on the color of my skin. 

In other words, I can say every right thing in the world: I can voice my solidarity with Russ after what happened in Utah. I can evolve my position on what happened to Thabo in New York. I can be that weird dude in 'Get Out' bragging about how he'd have voted for Obama's third term. I can condemn every racist heckler I've ever known.

But I can also fade into the crowd, and my face can blend in with the faces of those hecklers, any time I want.

I realize that now. And maybe in years past, just realizing something wouldn't felt like progress. But it's NOT years past - it's today. And I know I have to do better. So I'm trying to push myself further.

I'm trying to ask myself what I should actually do."

Korver makes a good point here, one which I honestly hadn't thought of previously. No matter how much white allies such as Korver and myself fight for the African-American community to attain equal rights, at the end of the day, to no fault of our own, we're privileged whites who don't know what it's like to be a black person in this country. We can attend a march in support of the Trayvon Martins of the world, yet we will never know what it's like to be followed around in a grocery store,  suspected of theft due to the color of our skin.

"How can I - as a white man, part of this systemic problem - become part of the solution when it comes to racism in my workplace? In my community? In this country?

These are the questions that I've been asking myself lately.

And I don't think I have all the answers yet - but here are the ones that are starting to ring the most true: 

I have to continue to educate myself on the history of racism in America.

I have to listen. I'll say it again, because it's that important. I have to listen.

I have to support leaders who see racial justice as fundamental - as something that's at the heart of nearly every major issue in our country today. And I have to support policies that do the same.

I have to do my best to recognize when to get out of the way - in order to amplify the voices of marginalized groups that so often get lost.

But maybe more than anything?

I know that, as a white man, I have to hold my fellow white men accountable.

We all have to hold each other accountable.

And we all have to be accountable - period. Not just for our own actions, but also for the ways that our inaction can create a 'safe' space for toxic behavior.

And I think the standard that we have to hold ourselves to, in this crucial moment..... it's higher than it's ever been. We have to be active. We have to be actively supporting the causes of those who've been marginalized - precisely because they've been marginalized."

I think the two most important points Korver raises here are with regard to learning and listening. A lot of times racism is bred on ignorance. If we listen to more people, try to empathize and understand their stories, the less prone we'll be to treating them as a demographic and more like an actual person. Similarly, the more we educate ourselves on our history (actual history, not that taught in Texas public schools), the more likely we'll be to understanding people different from ourselves, and largely due to that, the less likely we'll be to be prejudiced against them.

"Two concepts that I've been thinking about a lot lately are guilt and responsibility.

When it comes to racism in America, I think that guilt and responsibility tend to be seen as more or less the same thing. But I'm beginning to understand how there's a real difference. 

As white people, are we guilty of the sins of our forefathers? No, I don't think so.

But are we responsible for them? Yes, I believe we are.

And I guess I've come to realize that when we talk about solutions to system racism - police reform, workplace diversity, affirmative action, better access to healthcare, even reparations? It's not about guilt. It's not about pointing fingers, or passing blame.

It's about responsibility. It's about understanding that when we've said the word 'equality,' for generations, what we've really meant is equality for a certain group of people. It's about understanding that when we've said the word 'inequality,' for generations, what we've really meant is slavery, and its aftermath - which is still being felt to this day. It's about understanding on a fundamental level that black people and white people, they still have it different in America. And that those differences come from an ugly history..... not some random divide.

And it's about understanding that Black Lives Matter, and movements like it, matter, because - well, let's face it: I probably would've been safe on the street that one night in New York. And Thabo wasn't. And I was safe on the court that one night in Utah. And Russell wasn't."

Korver's take here I find to be interesting. While I don't feel a white person born today can be fairly accused of guilt for the sins of our forefathers, I'm not sure how I feel about his contention that we're still responsible for said sins. In any case, he's given me something to think about, which I appreciate.

"But as disgraceful as it is that we have to deal with racist hecklers in NBA arenas in 2019? The truth is, you could argue that that kind of racism is 'easier' to deal with.

Because at least in those cases, the racism is loud and clear. There's no ambiguity - not in the act itself, and thankfully not in the response: we throw the guy out of the building, and then we ban him for life.

But in many ways the more dangerous form of racism isn't that loud and stupid kind. It isn't the kind that announces itself when it walks into the arena. It's the quiet and subtle kind. The kind that almost hides itself in plain view. It's the person who does and says all the 'right' things in public: They're perfectly friendly when they meet a person of color. They're very polite. But in private? Well..... they sort of wish that everyone would stop making everything 'about race' all the time.

It's the kind of racism that can seem almost invisible - which is one of the main reasons why it's allowed to persist.

And so, again, banning a guy like Russ's heckler? To me, that's the 'easy' part. But if we're really going to make a difference as a league, as a community, and as a country on this issue..... it's like I said - I just think we need to push ourselves another step further.

First, by identifying that less visible, less obvious behavior as what it is: racism.

And then second, by denouncing that racism - actively, and at every level.

That's the bare minimum of where we have to get to, I think, if we're going to consider the NBA - or any workplace - as anything close to part of the solution in 2019.

He's right, and unfortunately, most racism is the quiet, almost invisible kind. Those who are loud and obnoxious about it are easy to spot, confront, and ban. I'd say they're kind of, ironically enough, in the minority, however. So we definitely need to learn how to spot and confront the quiet, subtle racists. Excellent point here by Korver.

"I'll wrap this up in a minute - but first I have one last thought.

The NBA is over 75% players of color.

Seventy-five percent.

People of color, they built this league. They've grown this league. People of color have made this league into what it is today. And I guess I just wanted to say that if you can't find it in your heart to support them - now? And I mean actively support them?

If the best that you can do for their cause is to passively 'tolerate' it? If that's the standard we're going to hold to - to blend in, and opt out?

Well, that's not good enough. It's not even close.

I know I'm in a strange position, as one of the more recognized white players in the NBA. It's a position that comes with a lot of..... interesting undertones. And it's a position that makes me a symbol for a lot of things, for a lot of people - often people who don't know anything about me. Usually, I just ignore them. But this doesn't feel like a 'usually' moment.

This feels like a moment to draw a line in the sand.

I believe that what's happening to people of color in this country - right now, in 2019 - is wrong.

The fact that black Americans are more than five times as likely to be incarcerated as white Americans is wrong. The fact that black Americans are more than twice as likely to live in poverty as white Americans is wrong. The fact that black unemployment rates nationally are double that of overall unemployment rates is wrong. The fact that black imprisonment rates for drug charges are almost six times higher nationally than white imprisonment rates for drug charges is wrong. The fact that black Americans own approximately one-tenth of the wealth that white Americans own is wrong.

The fact that inequality is built so deeply into so many of our most trusted institutions is wrong.

And I believe it's the responsibility of anyone on the privileged end of those inequalities to help make things right.

So if you don't want to know anything about me, outside of basketball, then listen - I get it. But if you do want to know something? Know I believe that.

Know that about me.

If you're wearing my jersey at a game? Know that about me. If you're planning to buy my jersey for someone else..... know that about me. If you're following me on social media..... know that about me. If you're coming to Jazz games and rooting for me..... know that about me.

And if you're claiming my name, or likeness, for your own cause, in any way..... know that about me. Know that I believe this matters.


Thanks for reading.

Time for me to shut up and listen."

I nodded fervently to the rest of this, especially the bit about shutting up and listening. Having said that, I'm going to talk now.

Kudos to Kyle Korver. Should he be hailed as a hero, like the great "white" knight who will save blacks in this country? No, of course not. On the flip-side, should he be heckled for possessing what the right deems "white guilt"? No again. Having said that, what Kyle Korver did is important, and here's why. How often do you hear white athletes do more than just place their arms around their black teammates protesting racism, police brutality more specifically? When's the last time you heard a white athlete make national news by writing a lengthy, heartfelt column about white privilege? Kyle Korver made a statement with this piece, both literally and figuratively. He started the difficult conversation so many (white) people are uncomfortable having. He challenged us to self-reflect, listen, learn, and become better people. No, we can't be faulted for what our ancestors did hundreds of years ago, but that doesn't mean we can just stand idly by as certain aspects of slavery carry into the modern age. We have to read, research, listen, and learn. We have to become more aware of realities which we've for far too long ignored. If we truly want to live in the America we like to proclaim is the model for freedom and democracy in the world, we have to place said rhetoric to action and make freedom and equality a reality for all, not just a select few. No matter how much you may agree or disagree with the points in Korver's column, one thing is undoubtedly true - Korver listened, learned, reflected, felt guilt and remorse, and had the (figurative) balls to step out of his shell, and make himself vulnerable by sharing his innermost thoughts and feelings on such a hot-button issue. That's not an easy thing to do. Whether you come to the same conclusions as he did or not, I recommend for everyone else to do the same thing. The more we listen to, empathize with, and learn about one another, the less likely we'll be to think differently or unfavorably about them due to traits they can't help. Now, like Korver said to end his piece, "It's time for me to shut up and listen." I hope others do the same.

https://www.theplayerstribune.com/en-us/articles/kyle-korver-utah-jazz-nba

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Boycotting jukeboxes because of TouchTunes

I love music and enjoy hitting the bar(s) over the weekend, so naturally, when the mood strikes me, I've never been coy about playing some songs on the jukebox. This past Thursday, a friend of mine turned 50, so several friends of her's, including myself, all met up to celebrate the occasion. At around 9:30, a friend of mine and I both chipped in $5 to play some songs on the jukebox. Four hours and 231 skips later, we gave up on hearing the songs we had selected, and went home knowing we had just wasted $5. This wasn't the first time such a thing had happened to me (and many others), and due to that, I'll be boycotting jukeboxes. Why? The scam known as TouchTunes. You see, here's how the plot typically breaks down. A person (or group of people) downloads the TouchTunes app on his/her phone, consumes one too many adult beverages, and due to this, has less care for spending extra money to hear the songs of their choosing right NOW. That's the thing with TouchTun

The difference between "looking" and "checking out"

I may be way off with these numbers, but it's my approximation that at least 75% of individuals whom are involved in a serious relationship feel it's perfectly acceptable to "check out" members of the opposite sex they're not involved with. Meanwhile, approximately 25% either don't feel this is acceptable or aren't sure about the matter. I hadn't thought about this matter for a while, but since I've been dating a woman for about 8 months, the topic has been pondered about some. When reading or hearing others discuss this very issue, I often times hear comments similar to the following: "It's human nature to look." "There's nothing wrong with checking others out. I'm sure he/she does it too!" "It's fine to do it. Just don't tell your boyfriend/girlfriend about it or do it in front of them!" "It's natural to find people attractive." When observing the array of comments, I i

The verdict is in. To no one's surprise, Jonathan Hoenig has been found guilty of being an idiot.

Just recently, when discussing the Michael Brown shooting and whether or not race had anything to do with it, Fox News contributor Jonathan Hoenig said, "You know who talks about race? Racists." One moment while I provide Mr. Hoenig with the well deserved slow-clap. :: slow-claps for two seconds :: So, that was quite the line by Mr. Hoenig, wasn't it? "You know who talks about race? Racists." Well, wasn't he just talking about race? So, by his own words, I guess that makes him a racist. Also, if he wants to be consistent, does this mean that people whom talk about gender are sexists and people whom talk about sexual orientation are homophobes? With that line of thinking, Hoenig would engage in the following back-and-forths: Hoenig: "So, who are you voting for?" A woman: "The Democratic candidate, because he's been adamant about his support for equal rights for women." Hoenig: "You sexist feminist nazi!"