So, I rejected another woman this past Friday night, who had been making advances on me and wanted me to go home with her. She was single and attractive, but I just don't do that. Upon hearing about this, a person at the bar where I was sitting, said in a rather flabbergasted tone, "I'm about to give up on you. What, do you not believe in pre-marital sex?"
I responded with, "No, it's not that. It's..."
...before someone interjected and said, "He's just particular!"
The original speaker then said, "Well, do you go to church?"
I responded with a, "No, I'm not religious."
He then said, "Well, you're not going to find a woman like that in a bar."
I replied with, "I don't look for women when I go to bars."
Just before walking away, he said, "You're doomed."
So, that's me - an agnostic, whom most people who know me would say has Christian-like values. The guy was right - I likely won't find a non-religious woman who has values like mine in a bar, but as I don't go to church, I'm not going to meet anyone there either. It's difficult. A woman may hold similar values to mine, but if she's uber-religious and discovers I'm agnostic, that's really all it takes for her to turn the other way. It's not how I act, how I speak, how I carry myself - it's the fact I don't believe in and worship what/whom she does. On the other side of the spectrum, many women who may lack any strong religious affiliation, seem to turn their backs on me due to my morals. So, where do I go? I have to believe there are women out there like me, in that they're not religious, but don't need religion in order to inspire them to have decent morals. In any case, I can't force myself to believe in something I don't and I'm not going to change who I am as a person in order to appease those who believe I'm too moral. I don't know where the kind of woman I'm looking for are at, but I'll continue looking until I find her.
I responded with, "No, it's not that. It's..."
...before someone interjected and said, "He's just particular!"
The original speaker then said, "Well, do you go to church?"
I responded with a, "No, I'm not religious."
He then said, "Well, you're not going to find a woman like that in a bar."
I replied with, "I don't look for women when I go to bars."
Just before walking away, he said, "You're doomed."
So, that's me - an agnostic, whom most people who know me would say has Christian-like values. The guy was right - I likely won't find a non-religious woman who has values like mine in a bar, but as I don't go to church, I'm not going to meet anyone there either. It's difficult. A woman may hold similar values to mine, but if she's uber-religious and discovers I'm agnostic, that's really all it takes for her to turn the other way. It's not how I act, how I speak, how I carry myself - it's the fact I don't believe in and worship what/whom she does. On the other side of the spectrum, many women who may lack any strong religious affiliation, seem to turn their backs on me due to my morals. So, where do I go? I have to believe there are women out there like me, in that they're not religious, but don't need religion in order to inspire them to have decent morals. In any case, I can't force myself to believe in something I don't and I'm not going to change who I am as a person in order to appease those who believe I'm too moral. I don't know where the kind of woman I'm looking for are at, but I'll continue looking until I find her.
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