I recently stumbled upon an article, entitled, "There Is a War on One Gender," and it soon led me to realize there is such a thing as an anti-woman woman columnist. Her name is Adriana Cohen.
In this article, Cohen makes the following comments:
- "Forget the mythical war on women."
- "What we're really seeing in American culture is a growing war on men. There's a bias against men that seeks to demean, devalue and ultimately emasculate normal, healthy men and boys in virtually all aspects of life - the U.S. educational and legal systems, the workplace, pop culture, and even modern-day families."
- "It's no secret that the American public K-12 school system - in an effort to empower its female students - is now predominantly 'teaching to girls,' versus providing curricula and atmospheres that educate, support and empower all students equally."
- "Turn on any sitcom or Hollywood movie and you'll easily find male characters routinely mocked and marginalized, while single moms and other women are presented throughout American pop culture as smarter, stronger and more sophisticated than men - portraying the false notion that having a man around, even a father, is an unnecessary life accessory."
- "Want to reduce gang violence in Chicago? Boys falling behind in school? Men and boys getting on drugs or having entanglements with the law? Perhaps if there were two parents in every home providing loving guidance - and dual incomes - we'd see less poverty and lower male incarceration rates."
- "Feminists don't want to talk about that. Instead, they lead young women astray by telling them that they don't need a man to have a child or family."
- "The war on men has also infiltrated the U.S. legal system. The #MeToo movement is tilting the levers of justice against men by demanding that women who make sexual harassment and sex abuse allegations against men be automatically believed before a legitimate investigation takes place."
- "These are treacherous times for men and teenage boys of all demographics. We are living in a country where one is perceived as being guilty in sex abuse claims based on one's gender and not the facts. These are allegations that could destroy men's lives."
- "Add it all up and we're witnessing the war on men spreading across the spectrum."
Ms. Cohen followed this up with a pre-midterm election column, titled, "Vote GOP to end war on your men." Here are some bits from that writing:
- "Voters heading to the polls tomorrow must ask themselves this: Do you want your husbands, brothers or sons being wrongfully accused of sexual harassment, or worse, subjected to criminal assault charges based on bogus allegations? If so, vote Democrat."
- "According to the radical left - waging a bona fide war on men - our brothers, sons and husbands are automatically guilty for simply for being born male."
- "Democrats insist we must 'believe women' regardless of the facts, evidence - or lack thereof - when the rest of us smell a rat."
Even more recently, Cohen wrote, "Kevin Spacey's alleged teen target made rookie bar mistakes," where she said:
- "Parents teach their children - don't take candy from strangers."
- "Heather Unruh's son, 18 at the time of the alleged assault, made several rookie mistakes the night in question and this is precisely why teenagers don't belong in bars. They don't have the life experience or maturity necessary to understand the unwritten rules of the bar scene."
- "The first rule is, if someone offers to buy you a drink you're still in platonic 'friend' territory. But - and there's a big but here - if a man offers to buy you more than one drink, or several as Spacey did, he is sending you a strong signal he's romantically interested. After all, adults know there's no free lunch so if someone is shelling out their money to buy you drinks, there's a reason. They're into you. The other unwritten bar rule is if a person accepts more than one drink from another they're sending the signal back that they're also potentially interested on a romantic level because the unspoken understanding is if the drinking duo were just friends - they'd be splitting the tab."
- "I've been to plenty of bars in my day, including the Club Car as recently as last month for its annual Christmas stroll celebration. I can tell you that I don't accept a man buying me more than one drink because I don't want to lead them on. This is the first rookie mistake by Unruh's kid, who didn't belong in the bar in the first place. He also failed to question why a decades-older TV star like Spacey estimated to be worth around $100 million would want to hang out with him all night."
This anti-woman woman columnist needs some humansplainin' (as opposed to mansplainin'). First off, very few rape allegations are discovered to be false - between just 2 and 10%. Secondly, men (or anyone for that matter) can't be convicted in a court of law and sent to prison unless they're found to be guilty beyond a reasonable doubt. Granted, they can be treated as guilty away from the courts, via the media, social media, etc. However, from a strictly legal standpoint, men can't be sent to jail unless they're found to be guilty beyond a reasonable doubt in court. Thirdly, roughly 3.5 million sex-related crimes go unreported every year. Victims have consistently feared for their lives and/or felt like no one would care, so the #MeToo movement, if anything, provided these very individuals with a safe platform from which to make their voices finally heard.
This is where the biggest misunderstanding seems to take place between radical conservatives like Adriana Cohen and members of the #MeToo movement. Women especially, but victims of all stripes, have felt silenced for years. Whether they received a physical threat, a professional threat, or felt intimidated without any words actually being spoken, they felt the safest option would be to remain silent, while their internal scars deepened, their depression strengthened, and their tendency to travel down a self-destructive downward spiral grew increasingly more likely. #MeToo gave them a chance to finally be heard. It made them realize they weren't alone. The movement provided them hope that they too could move forward from this negatively life-altering experience into a better, brighter tomorrow.
Cohen seems to blame the victims more so than the perpetrators. The young man Kevin Spacey allegedly assaulted? Oh, well, he was too young to be in a bar anyway and should have known better. Newsflash: Friends buy each other drinks and pay for each other's tabs all the time. That doesn't mean friend A wants to fornicate with friend B. Not every person is a pervert. Also, 50-year-olds have fallen victim to the roofie at bars. So what's Ms. Cohen going to tell them? "Oh, well, it's your fault because you are too young and don't possess enough life-experience or maturity"? Okay then...
To put it plain and simple, there is no such as a war on men. Every single one of our presidents has been male. Most of the rich in this country are male. Most members of Congress are male. Most business leaders are male. Men get paid more for equal work than women. Many view professional, intelligent, driven, goal-oriented women in a negative light. Men often times view women from a superficial light first and foremost, even in a workplace setting. We even saw a male, who had been accused by 20+ women of sexual harassment and assault, bully his female opponent and get elected president. The system has been highly patriarchal for as long as history books can remember. Due to her distorted vision of reality, courtesy of Fox News-brainwashing and the like, Ms. Cohen has seemingly substituted common sense, unifying solutions with nonsensical divisive ones. Want to see less gang violence in Chicago? Provide equal education across all schools, regardless of the demographic. Want to decrease incarceration rates? Start implementing policies which help build the middle class and decrease the gap between the top 2% and the bottom 98%. Want more two-parent households? Support same-sex marriage.
Men aren't guilty of sexual improprieties for just being born male, but women aren't guilty of lying for just being born female. Victims aren't responsible for criminals' behavior for being associated with them in some manner or another. Men can't be found guilty and sent away to prison for an allegation, but women (victims in general) shouldn't be ignored with theirs. Women haven't waged a war on men; they've waged a war on inequality. Whether inside or outside the workplace, the two sexes shouldn't be treated differently just because of how they were born. The day of the sexist double-standard should be no more. "Boys will be boys;" "It's just locker-room talk;" etc. No, it's time men treated women as equals in and out of the workplace, started taking responsibility for their misbehavior, and it's high past time we stopped letting them get away with it because they were born male.
https://www.creators.com/read/adriana-cohen/08/18/there-is-a-war-on-one-gender
https://www.bostonherald.com/2018/11/05/vote-gop-to-end-war-on-your-men/
https://www.bostonherald.com/2019/01/01/cohen-spaceys-alleged-teen-target-made-rookie-bar-mistakes/
In this article, Cohen makes the following comments:
- "Forget the mythical war on women."
- "What we're really seeing in American culture is a growing war on men. There's a bias against men that seeks to demean, devalue and ultimately emasculate normal, healthy men and boys in virtually all aspects of life - the U.S. educational and legal systems, the workplace, pop culture, and even modern-day families."
- "It's no secret that the American public K-12 school system - in an effort to empower its female students - is now predominantly 'teaching to girls,' versus providing curricula and atmospheres that educate, support and empower all students equally."
- "Turn on any sitcom or Hollywood movie and you'll easily find male characters routinely mocked and marginalized, while single moms and other women are presented throughout American pop culture as smarter, stronger and more sophisticated than men - portraying the false notion that having a man around, even a father, is an unnecessary life accessory."
- "Want to reduce gang violence in Chicago? Boys falling behind in school? Men and boys getting on drugs or having entanglements with the law? Perhaps if there were two parents in every home providing loving guidance - and dual incomes - we'd see less poverty and lower male incarceration rates."
- "Feminists don't want to talk about that. Instead, they lead young women astray by telling them that they don't need a man to have a child or family."
- "The war on men has also infiltrated the U.S. legal system. The #MeToo movement is tilting the levers of justice against men by demanding that women who make sexual harassment and sex abuse allegations against men be automatically believed before a legitimate investigation takes place."
- "These are treacherous times for men and teenage boys of all demographics. We are living in a country where one is perceived as being guilty in sex abuse claims based on one's gender and not the facts. These are allegations that could destroy men's lives."
- "Add it all up and we're witnessing the war on men spreading across the spectrum."
Ms. Cohen followed this up with a pre-midterm election column, titled, "Vote GOP to end war on your men." Here are some bits from that writing:
- "Voters heading to the polls tomorrow must ask themselves this: Do you want your husbands, brothers or sons being wrongfully accused of sexual harassment, or worse, subjected to criminal assault charges based on bogus allegations? If so, vote Democrat."
- "According to the radical left - waging a bona fide war on men - our brothers, sons and husbands are automatically guilty for simply for being born male."
- "Democrats insist we must 'believe women' regardless of the facts, evidence - or lack thereof - when the rest of us smell a rat."
Even more recently, Cohen wrote, "Kevin Spacey's alleged teen target made rookie bar mistakes," where she said:
- "Parents teach their children - don't take candy from strangers."
- "Heather Unruh's son, 18 at the time of the alleged assault, made several rookie mistakes the night in question and this is precisely why teenagers don't belong in bars. They don't have the life experience or maturity necessary to understand the unwritten rules of the bar scene."
- "The first rule is, if someone offers to buy you a drink you're still in platonic 'friend' territory. But - and there's a big but here - if a man offers to buy you more than one drink, or several as Spacey did, he is sending you a strong signal he's romantically interested. After all, adults know there's no free lunch so if someone is shelling out their money to buy you drinks, there's a reason. They're into you. The other unwritten bar rule is if a person accepts more than one drink from another they're sending the signal back that they're also potentially interested on a romantic level because the unspoken understanding is if the drinking duo were just friends - they'd be splitting the tab."
- "I've been to plenty of bars in my day, including the Club Car as recently as last month for its annual Christmas stroll celebration. I can tell you that I don't accept a man buying me more than one drink because I don't want to lead them on. This is the first rookie mistake by Unruh's kid, who didn't belong in the bar in the first place. He also failed to question why a decades-older TV star like Spacey estimated to be worth around $100 million would want to hang out with him all night."
This anti-woman woman columnist needs some humansplainin' (as opposed to mansplainin'). First off, very few rape allegations are discovered to be false - between just 2 and 10%. Secondly, men (or anyone for that matter) can't be convicted in a court of law and sent to prison unless they're found to be guilty beyond a reasonable doubt. Granted, they can be treated as guilty away from the courts, via the media, social media, etc. However, from a strictly legal standpoint, men can't be sent to jail unless they're found to be guilty beyond a reasonable doubt in court. Thirdly, roughly 3.5 million sex-related crimes go unreported every year. Victims have consistently feared for their lives and/or felt like no one would care, so the #MeToo movement, if anything, provided these very individuals with a safe platform from which to make their voices finally heard.
This is where the biggest misunderstanding seems to take place between radical conservatives like Adriana Cohen and members of the #MeToo movement. Women especially, but victims of all stripes, have felt silenced for years. Whether they received a physical threat, a professional threat, or felt intimidated without any words actually being spoken, they felt the safest option would be to remain silent, while their internal scars deepened, their depression strengthened, and their tendency to travel down a self-destructive downward spiral grew increasingly more likely. #MeToo gave them a chance to finally be heard. It made them realize they weren't alone. The movement provided them hope that they too could move forward from this negatively life-altering experience into a better, brighter tomorrow.
Cohen seems to blame the victims more so than the perpetrators. The young man Kevin Spacey allegedly assaulted? Oh, well, he was too young to be in a bar anyway and should have known better. Newsflash: Friends buy each other drinks and pay for each other's tabs all the time. That doesn't mean friend A wants to fornicate with friend B. Not every person is a pervert. Also, 50-year-olds have fallen victim to the roofie at bars. So what's Ms. Cohen going to tell them? "Oh, well, it's your fault because you are too young and don't possess enough life-experience or maturity"? Okay then...
To put it plain and simple, there is no such as a war on men. Every single one of our presidents has been male. Most of the rich in this country are male. Most members of Congress are male. Most business leaders are male. Men get paid more for equal work than women. Many view professional, intelligent, driven, goal-oriented women in a negative light. Men often times view women from a superficial light first and foremost, even in a workplace setting. We even saw a male, who had been accused by 20+ women of sexual harassment and assault, bully his female opponent and get elected president. The system has been highly patriarchal for as long as history books can remember. Due to her distorted vision of reality, courtesy of Fox News-brainwashing and the like, Ms. Cohen has seemingly substituted common sense, unifying solutions with nonsensical divisive ones. Want to see less gang violence in Chicago? Provide equal education across all schools, regardless of the demographic. Want to decrease incarceration rates? Start implementing policies which help build the middle class and decrease the gap between the top 2% and the bottom 98%. Want more two-parent households? Support same-sex marriage.
Men aren't guilty of sexual improprieties for just being born male, but women aren't guilty of lying for just being born female. Victims aren't responsible for criminals' behavior for being associated with them in some manner or another. Men can't be found guilty and sent away to prison for an allegation, but women (victims in general) shouldn't be ignored with theirs. Women haven't waged a war on men; they've waged a war on inequality. Whether inside or outside the workplace, the two sexes shouldn't be treated differently just because of how they were born. The day of the sexist double-standard should be no more. "Boys will be boys;" "It's just locker-room talk;" etc. No, it's time men treated women as equals in and out of the workplace, started taking responsibility for their misbehavior, and it's high past time we stopped letting them get away with it because they were born male.
https://www.creators.com/read/adriana-cohen/08/18/there-is-a-war-on-one-gender
https://www.bostonherald.com/2018/11/05/vote-gop-to-end-war-on-your-men/
https://www.bostonherald.com/2019/01/01/cohen-spaceys-alleged-teen-target-made-rookie-bar-mistakes/
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