A holiday surprise/blessing

Like every holiday season, it was hectic and draining this year. Many presents were opened. A lot of food was eaten. A number of people called for the family to do shots. Movies and football were watched. Music was played. Laughs were had. There was one moment, however, which stood out from the rest this past Christmas season.

A family member of mine had alienated himself from the rest of the family for the past 10-15 years. I hadn't seen this individual for roughly 8 or 9 years. After hearing about an awful accident this person was involved in, I wondered to myself if we'd ever see each other and interact again. I thought, "Was it really worth it? The grudge(s) which prevented you from spending time with the family?" That's one thing that's always struck me about grudges. None of us know full well when our time will come in this life, so if tragedy strikes either us or an individual to whom we've given the silent treatment for years, how much regret will be felt? 

Before this person's shocking arrival, I and many others within the family wondered how we'd react if we were to see him again. Many of us had felt disappointed, hurt, even betrayed, so if we were provided the opportunity of opening our arms back up to him again, would we forgive, turn our backs, or perhaps forgive but not forget? Well, at least on this one evening, we all opened our arms, and at least for one final time, we felt like a complete family again, just like old times. 

I have no idea if this was a one-time thing or the start of a trend, but I'm grateful I got to at least spend one final Christmas with this person. Whether or not I ever see him again, I wish he and his family nothing but the best, and while I'll forgive but have trouble forgetting the pain he inflicted on the family, I vow to open my arms to him each and every time he allows for it. Hoping the new year brings you good health and happiness.