I remember in an episode of "Seinfeld," George Costanza just up and decided, since things had never really gone right for him, to be and do the exact opposite of what he normally would in hope that it'd bring about better results. It did. George soon had a beautiful girlfriend, a good job and was feeling great. He ended up being like Elaine and Elaine, in turn, suffered some bad fortune and wound up being like George.
Now, I'm not going to go to such extremes as George and be the total opposite person in any and every situation or make the opposite decision every single time, but I'm thinking about going that direction in a couple areas - dating being the big one.
I'm not sure what my deal has been over the years, but I have had rotten luck in the dating world. It's either been that I've started dating and find out the person isn't who I thought she was and wound up getting lied to and cheated on OR I pursue someone whom gives me mixed messages and when confronted, finally tell me they're not interested. I have seemed to hold this magical attraction to women whom are flaky, phony, selfish and egocentric. Whether I initially knew it or not (most likely not), at some point or another, I finally learn that these women hold such qualities. SO, I'm going to try and go in the opposite direction here. We'll see how this goes.
I'm already at a suspect start. A lady and I had been talking since late June and we both showed an initial interest, with her actually instigating things. However, certain things got in the way of us progressing matters over the months, from my pursuing a couple women, to my going through health problems to her dating. We've kept in touch over the months, but things have really begun to pick up again, yet even though she appears to be the direct opposite of women I've pursued in the past, she's now beginning to act like the rest. Six months ago, she seemed willing to give as much as receive. She played an equally active role in the communication and planning. I saw definite potential there on multiple levels. As of this very moment, it's me giving 100% and her giving maybe 40%. That's kind of how it's gone, especially recently. Over the past year, I've been interested in three women and all three took, took and took, but never gave back. I had to give 100% and make up for their lack of an effort. I'm not wanting to do that again. I thought this one was different, especially for how she acted a few months ago, but am beginning to think that's not the case. I will have to confront her on matters shortly and just take things from there. In any case, I hope it's just the start of a new and improved trend in the dating world for me. Hopefully I can successfully go the George Costanza route, break the cycle and have better fortunes in 2012 - the Year of the Costanza!
Now, I'm not going to go to such extremes as George and be the total opposite person in any and every situation or make the opposite decision every single time, but I'm thinking about going that direction in a couple areas - dating being the big one.
I'm not sure what my deal has been over the years, but I have had rotten luck in the dating world. It's either been that I've started dating and find out the person isn't who I thought she was and wound up getting lied to and cheated on OR I pursue someone whom gives me mixed messages and when confronted, finally tell me they're not interested. I have seemed to hold this magical attraction to women whom are flaky, phony, selfish and egocentric. Whether I initially knew it or not (most likely not), at some point or another, I finally learn that these women hold such qualities. SO, I'm going to try and go in the opposite direction here. We'll see how this goes.
I'm already at a suspect start. A lady and I had been talking since late June and we both showed an initial interest, with her actually instigating things. However, certain things got in the way of us progressing matters over the months, from my pursuing a couple women, to my going through health problems to her dating. We've kept in touch over the months, but things have really begun to pick up again, yet even though she appears to be the direct opposite of women I've pursued in the past, she's now beginning to act like the rest. Six months ago, she seemed willing to give as much as receive. She played an equally active role in the communication and planning. I saw definite potential there on multiple levels. As of this very moment, it's me giving 100% and her giving maybe 40%. That's kind of how it's gone, especially recently. Over the past year, I've been interested in three women and all three took, took and took, but never gave back. I had to give 100% and make up for their lack of an effort. I'm not wanting to do that again. I thought this one was different, especially for how she acted a few months ago, but am beginning to think that's not the case. I will have to confront her on matters shortly and just take things from there. In any case, I hope it's just the start of a new and improved trend in the dating world for me. Hopefully I can successfully go the George Costanza route, break the cycle and have better fortunes in 2012 - the Year of the Costanza!
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