I actually read/heard some women talk about how it is their firm belief that ignoring a guy they like will get him to like her more. Sorry, but this is false.
The chase may be fun for some, for a little while, but there's a vast difference between playing hard to get and downright ignoring a person. The guy isn't going to chase a woman forever if she's playing hard to get. It may drive him a little bonkers, as he's uncertain of how she really feels and the longer this goes on, the crazier he'll get until he finally confronts the woman on the matter and the end result of that is up in the air. There are very mixed results on that front. If a woman ignores a guy, he's going to simply think she's not interested and will be turned away. What's a person supposed to think if you call them day after day, send them e-mails and never receive a response? "Oh, he/she's just messing with me. They'll pick up or call/write back eventually. I'm going to continue doing this every day until that happens. It'll all be worth it in the end." Nope. Being ignored hurts a hell of a lot more than being told a person isn't interested. At least then a specific direction is given, the person on the receiving end of these words can put that situation behind them and move forward, knowing full well that there's no chance of them starting a relationship with one another. Also, it indicates that the other person has enough respect for you to be up front and honest. When someone ignores another who has expressed interest in them, they're being cowardly and disrespectful. It also leaves lingering questions in a person's mind if they don't hear with any certitude how the other feels. This makes it difficult to fully move on from the situation and look elsewhere.
I'm persistent. When I garner feelings for a woman, I'm not afraid to express that, attempt to make her feel special and open up in hope that she will reciprocate those words and actions. I will do this until I hear otherwise or see/hear a clear indicator that she's not at all interested. If she ignores me, then while I'll still try to contact her for a few days, I'll give up before too terribly long. While I'll likely never know her thoughts and/or feelings toward me, I'll have to think, "Well, I obviously can't mean much to her. I opened up to her, asked her out and she doesn't have the common courtesy to be up front and honest with me? Who would do that? Well, heck with her. She's obviously not who I thought she was" and that will be it.
Ignoring a person is the very worst way to get them to like you more. I have no idea what idiot thought up this strategy, but I have a hunch he or she was seriously delusional, possibly tripping acid with a slight hint of mental retardation.
The chase may be fun for some, for a little while, but there's a vast difference between playing hard to get and downright ignoring a person. The guy isn't going to chase a woman forever if she's playing hard to get. It may drive him a little bonkers, as he's uncertain of how she really feels and the longer this goes on, the crazier he'll get until he finally confronts the woman on the matter and the end result of that is up in the air. There are very mixed results on that front. If a woman ignores a guy, he's going to simply think she's not interested and will be turned away. What's a person supposed to think if you call them day after day, send them e-mails and never receive a response? "Oh, he/she's just messing with me. They'll pick up or call/write back eventually. I'm going to continue doing this every day until that happens. It'll all be worth it in the end." Nope. Being ignored hurts a hell of a lot more than being told a person isn't interested. At least then a specific direction is given, the person on the receiving end of these words can put that situation behind them and move forward, knowing full well that there's no chance of them starting a relationship with one another. Also, it indicates that the other person has enough respect for you to be up front and honest. When someone ignores another who has expressed interest in them, they're being cowardly and disrespectful. It also leaves lingering questions in a person's mind if they don't hear with any certitude how the other feels. This makes it difficult to fully move on from the situation and look elsewhere.
I'm persistent. When I garner feelings for a woman, I'm not afraid to express that, attempt to make her feel special and open up in hope that she will reciprocate those words and actions. I will do this until I hear otherwise or see/hear a clear indicator that she's not at all interested. If she ignores me, then while I'll still try to contact her for a few days, I'll give up before too terribly long. While I'll likely never know her thoughts and/or feelings toward me, I'll have to think, "Well, I obviously can't mean much to her. I opened up to her, asked her out and she doesn't have the common courtesy to be up front and honest with me? Who would do that? Well, heck with her. She's obviously not who I thought she was" and that will be it.
Ignoring a person is the very worst way to get them to like you more. I have no idea what idiot thought up this strategy, but I have a hunch he or she was seriously delusional, possibly tripping acid with a slight hint of mental retardation.
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