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A phrase that's always bothered me: "She's out of your league!"

Anyone who's been living for more than a week has probably heard at least one person say, "She's out of your league!" There was even a film released in 2010 which went by the title, She's Out of My League. What does that phrase mean? To any guy with a temporary squeaky voice or older, it basically means a woman is too "hot" for a guy that's pursuing her.

This phrase bothers me for multiple reasons. First off, it makes it sound as though the only thing that matters in this world is physical attractiveness. Secondly, the phrase makes it seem as though a guy can never be good enough for a "hot" woman if he isn't George Clooney. Thirdly, the phrase makes it sound like "hot" women are shallower than an empty baby pool. Lastly, the phrase comes across as, "The only way a woman can be out of a guy's league is if she's like really really hot and stuff."

When someone says "She's out of your league," not only are they being unfair to millions of guys around the globe, they're also being unintentionally sexist, as they're basically stating all a woman is good for is looking good.

Male friend: "Dude! Why are you chasing after her? She's out of your league, bro!"

"What do you mean? She's too smart? So what if she went to Harvard?"

Friend: "Naw, it's not that..."

"She's too successful? So what if she makes a butt-load of money?"

Friend: "No, no, no..."

"Oh, wait... You think she's too nice and funny for me or something?"

Friend: "No, not at all..."

"So what are you saying?"

Friend: "Just look at her and then look at you. See what I mean now? She's out of your league!"


Are we REALLY that sexist and shallow? Women are more than just trophies to be proudly held up above men's heads. This is 2017, isn't it? Let's also get one thing straight - physical attractiveness isn't universal. We all have different tastes and likes. That doesn't make any of us right or wrong regarding the matter. Some women don't find Brad Pitt or George Clooney attractive. Does this make them crazy? No. I've heard men say they don't think Jennifer Lopez or Sofia Vergara are appealing. Does this make them nutters? Yes. Just kidding. No, it doesn't. Just because our often-times deceiving eyes would have us believe two individuals provide the appearance of an odd couple doesn't mean their attraction toward one another isn't justified, doesn't mean we should judge them, and doesn't mean they can't live happily ever after. The next time I hear a guy say, "She's out of your league!," I think I'm just going to respond with, "...and what league is that? She thinks I fit into her league just fine, and yes, I mean that ambiguously."

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