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Sex = Confusion

Like with the term "love," of which there are 27 definitions in the dictionary, there doesn't appear to be a universal definition of the word "sex."

The dictionary defines the term as follows: "Sexual activity, including specifically sexual intercourse."

Yet regardless of the definition, sex means different things to different people.

According to the law, two people are said to have had sex if any penetration occurred. However, if this is to be taken literally, then women have sex with themselves all the time.

For some, sex is any and everything that occurs below the belt for two people. But, while it's understandable to refer to as oral sex as a kind of sex, when a person asks another if he or she has had sex with another, they're solely inquiring about intercourse.

Perhaps one's definition of sex comes down to two main factors: 1) Whether they're a black-and-white or shades-of-grey thinker on the subject and 2) How they define cheating.

Like with love and sex, cheating can mean different things to different people. There are couples whom feel the only physical kind of cheating is "sex," so they may be more prone to lumping all types of sex in with one another due to that, whereas other couples may feel that there are other forms of physical cheating, so they be less prone to black-and-white thinking when it comes to their definition of sex.

Regardless of one's definition, with as much confusion as there seems to be with regard to defining the terms love, sex, and cheating, it would probably be wise to find someone whom agrees with you on those very definitions, or at the very least, completely understands them. If not, it could lead to a world of problems, such as this following made-up conversation:

Woman: "I can't believe you did that!"

Man: "What, is there a problem?"

Woman: "You had sex with her!"

Man: "No, I didn't."

Woman: "Yes you did!"

Man: "What? No. No, I didn't. We didn't have sex. We messed around a bit, but didn't have sex."

Woman: "That is sex!"

Man: "Could I get her pregnant with what I did? No, so it's not sex!"

Woman: "No, you couldn't, but it's still sex!"

Man: "It's not sex-sex..."

Woman: "What's 'sex-sex?'"

Man: "You know what sex-sex is..."

Woman: "No, I don't."

Man: "Sex-sex is sex."

Woman: "But you had sex with her..."

Man: "No, I didn't. We didn't have sex-sex, just a kind of sex."

Woman: "I'm so confused."

Man: "Me too now that I think of it."

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/love?s=t

https://www.google.com/#q=definition+of+sex

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