Ever have a last resort? You know, that person you can always depend on to be there if you want to talk or do something, but they're not quite your favorite person in the world? You approach the situation and say something like, "Well, I guess I'll call (fill in the blank)." Ever wonder if that person knows that they're the last resort? When they hear your voice, do they automatically know why it is you're calling. "Ah, it's (your name). I guess no one else is available today, so he/she called me. Whatever, I've got nothing better to do." Or do they have no idea and are actually thrilled when you call? "Oh wow! I haven't talked to you for a while! How have you been? Good, I hope. Want to get together and do something?"
Is it common for people to have that last resort, just in case friends and family are extremely busy on a particular day and we're really wanting to get out and do something? It doesn't really matter who with, so long as we're out and about?
What about when the tables are turned and you're the last resort? Ever think about that? How does that feel? Do you automatically know when you hear that person's voice or are you excited just to be talking to them? It's a different feeling, I must say.
Heck, it could be someone a person speaks to rather regularly, but if hanging out ever gets brought up, then the conversation dies or there's an ending line of, "Well, we'll see what's going on. I'll call you when I find out." Of course, they don't call. It seems like a chore to move up the communication ladder as well. If two people are talking online and one suggests that they talk on the phone, then the other party treats it like a burden, "Gosh, well, you know. I'm talking to some other people right now." Only if they bring up the notion of talking on the phone, is that okay. Everything revolves around them and their time. In this scenario, we're the last resort. If they suggest we move the conversation to the phone, they know, in the back of their mind, that we'll say yes, from the fact that we've suggested it numerous other times, only to be rejected. When the two people actually chat over the telephone, an idea may come up about actually hanging out, but for one reason or another, those plans just don't follow through.
It reminds me of those old "Saved By the Bell" shows with Lisa Turtle and Screech Powers. Even though, deep down, I think Lisa liked Screech, she would outwardly express, "Well Screech, if you were the last guy on the face of the earth, then I'd give dating some thought." That's what it's like for last resorts. "Well, if there's no one else to hang out with and I really feel like getting out, then I guess I'll think about going with you somewhere."
Makes one feel good to feel like a burden or a last resort, doesn't it? If they're blind about it for one reason or another and don't feel like a last resort, then, that's good (for now). But eventually, they'll get the hint and at that point in time, it won't be feeling so pleasant. It'll be rather painful, actually.
Is it common for people to have that last resort, just in case friends and family are extremely busy on a particular day and we're really wanting to get out and do something? It doesn't really matter who with, so long as we're out and about?
What about when the tables are turned and you're the last resort? Ever think about that? How does that feel? Do you automatically know when you hear that person's voice or are you excited just to be talking to them? It's a different feeling, I must say.
Heck, it could be someone a person speaks to rather regularly, but if hanging out ever gets brought up, then the conversation dies or there's an ending line of, "Well, we'll see what's going on. I'll call you when I find out." Of course, they don't call. It seems like a chore to move up the communication ladder as well. If two people are talking online and one suggests that they talk on the phone, then the other party treats it like a burden, "Gosh, well, you know. I'm talking to some other people right now." Only if they bring up the notion of talking on the phone, is that okay. Everything revolves around them and their time. In this scenario, we're the last resort. If they suggest we move the conversation to the phone, they know, in the back of their mind, that we'll say yes, from the fact that we've suggested it numerous other times, only to be rejected. When the two people actually chat over the telephone, an idea may come up about actually hanging out, but for one reason or another, those plans just don't follow through.
It reminds me of those old "Saved By the Bell" shows with Lisa Turtle and Screech Powers. Even though, deep down, I think Lisa liked Screech, she would outwardly express, "Well Screech, if you were the last guy on the face of the earth, then I'd give dating some thought." That's what it's like for last resorts. "Well, if there's no one else to hang out with and I really feel like getting out, then I guess I'll think about going with you somewhere."
Makes one feel good to feel like a burden or a last resort, doesn't it? If they're blind about it for one reason or another and don't feel like a last resort, then, that's good (for now). But eventually, they'll get the hint and at that point in time, it won't be feeling so pleasant. It'll be rather painful, actually.
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