Talk Talk Talky

Ever know a person who only talks about their boyfriend or girlfriend? It's funny, because I don't notice that with husbands and wives, after two people marry. But, I notice it a great deal when people are dating. Why is that?

I can proudly say I haven't resorted to this. I've even been engaged in two relationships which lasted for one year and two years and I didn't resort to this. Perhaps it's just because I knew when people asked me how my girlfriend was or how things were going with her, they didn't want me to ramble on about it for an hour or two. They just wanted a short and sweet answer. They were just trying to be nice, check up on the situation, in hopes that everything was going well. But, I've gotten myself into trouble at times by asking other people the very same questions and they can't stop talking (they may still be talking as I write this). Even if it's with a guy or gal they went on one date with, they go on and on about him or her like they've been married for thirty years. Does anyone else get tired of this or is it just me?

I mean, it's not like I just go and call a friend up to listen to stories regarding their love interest. It's not like I start bouncing up and down the night before, saying to myself, "Oh boy, oh boy...tomorrow, I get to call so and so and he/she can tell me all about their weekend together. I can't wait!" And you know, perhaps this is just the guy in me, because I've known many more females being content on talking about and listening to each other's stories than the guys. When a male friend asks me about a date or how things are going with a girlfriend, what he's really asking is, "Alright, so, in four words or less, answer the following questions: How is she doing, how are the two of you doing, and are you happy?" Me- "Well, great and yes." But, if a female asks me about how things are going, if I give the four-word response like I did with the male, she will probably continue to ask more questions. The guy will just say, "Hey, that's cool, man. Let's go play some Playstation." But, the conversation with the gal may take much more description and many more details in order to finish the discussion on that topic.

Is it nice? Is it nice to have someone whom actually seems interested in hearing the stories? Yeah, sometimes. But, not on a consistent basis, because sooner or later, you're going to start running out of original material and story 36 may sound very similar to story 11. The only time when it gets really annoying is when either you or the other person answers the question about your love interest and even when you or the other person then goes on to a new topic, the topic always goes back to the boyfriend or girlfriend.

After we talked about a boyfriend, I could say to a friend of mine, "Have you seen, 'Wedding Crashers' yet?"

She'd reply back, "Yeah, it's so funny. That's one of Chico's favorite movies! His favorite part is the dinner table scene!"

I'd then go on to a different topic, "So, how's your family doing?"

She may reply with, "Great. They just love Chico! They all get along so well! It's like he's already part of the family!"

At this point, I'd be very flustered in trying to find a topic where she couldn't resort back to the boyfriend. I'd be really screwed if I asked the simple question, "So, what are you doing today/tonight/this weekend?" Because I already know where that's going to lead. I could ask about school or work, but that wouldn't be too exciting and some way or another, it'd go back to Chico. What if I asked about an old friend of her's that she hasn't seen or talked to for a while? That couldn't lead back to Chico, could it?

"So, how's Brianna doing? That old friend of yours? Talked to her lately?"

"Oh yeah, I told her all about Chico and she's so happy for me. She can't wait to meet him! She's actually flying down next weekend so she can hang out with me and meet my Chico."

This is the time when I say, "Okie dokie, well, I think dinner's a-calling me, so I better get going. It was great talking to you and I hope you, Brianna, and Chico have a lovely time next weekend. Take care. Buhbye now." When all else fails, the goodbye routine is always good as a last resort.