Gotta love the folk who say one thing and do another. It's like they're blind in one eye and see 20/20 in the other. Yeah, I think we've all done this a time or two. But some are so consistent with it, that they are nothing more than a walking, talking contradiction. Pretty much everything they say, you can expect an action that contradicts those words.
I don't know, I think that when we give others advice, many times we state what we want to believe. Our conscience speaks and it can even be surprising in hindsight, when we look back at what we said, thinking, "Wow, I said that? Huh. I guess that is true, isn't it?" But it's different when we're taking part in what we spoke about to someone else. We tend to look at the situation differently, tend to be blinded by our inner biases toward a person, place or situation, and don't go with that same gut instinct we went with to advise another person.
But I would hope that somewhere down the line, we could become more consistent with our words and our actions. There will always be minor slip ups here and there, but I'd hope that those slip ups would occur less frequently as we grow and mature. But this just isn't the case for some.
Does our conscience give us an accurate perception or mold of who we are and what we believe, but when we go out into the very same predicaments we'd spoken about before, we lose track of or we don't fully believe that our conscience molded us accurately?
For example, I've heard people say I don't know how many times that they'd never date someone who they had to change much for or perhaps they told another not to date a particular person, because that person wanted them to change the entire complexion of who they were. Yet at the same time or perhaps in the near future, the one whom gave the advice or spoke those words, will drastically change themselves in order to please another. Someone might say that they are very much against disloyalty in anything, yet they had just asked someone to have an affair.
When people speak these honest words, do they feel the rules don't apply to them? It only applies to others? Is it a narcissistic perspective that they wrote the manual on what's right and wrong, so they don't have to follow the same guidelines as others?
It's very confusing, yet oddly humorous, when I hear and see these contradictions. Perhaps people are blind to their own hypocrisies and contradictions, but others outside the box certainly aren't and it can be very confusing for those outside the box looking in to witness these constant contradictions.
My advice is if you or anyone else bumps into a walking, talking contradiction, to actually confront them on the matter, so that hopefully they can start seeing it for themselves and make some changes to prevent the contradictions from occurring so frequently.
I don't know, I think that when we give others advice, many times we state what we want to believe. Our conscience speaks and it can even be surprising in hindsight, when we look back at what we said, thinking, "Wow, I said that? Huh. I guess that is true, isn't it?" But it's different when we're taking part in what we spoke about to someone else. We tend to look at the situation differently, tend to be blinded by our inner biases toward a person, place or situation, and don't go with that same gut instinct we went with to advise another person.
But I would hope that somewhere down the line, we could become more consistent with our words and our actions. There will always be minor slip ups here and there, but I'd hope that those slip ups would occur less frequently as we grow and mature. But this just isn't the case for some.
Does our conscience give us an accurate perception or mold of who we are and what we believe, but when we go out into the very same predicaments we'd spoken about before, we lose track of or we don't fully believe that our conscience molded us accurately?
For example, I've heard people say I don't know how many times that they'd never date someone who they had to change much for or perhaps they told another not to date a particular person, because that person wanted them to change the entire complexion of who they were. Yet at the same time or perhaps in the near future, the one whom gave the advice or spoke those words, will drastically change themselves in order to please another. Someone might say that they are very much against disloyalty in anything, yet they had just asked someone to have an affair.
When people speak these honest words, do they feel the rules don't apply to them? It only applies to others? Is it a narcissistic perspective that they wrote the manual on what's right and wrong, so they don't have to follow the same guidelines as others?
It's very confusing, yet oddly humorous, when I hear and see these contradictions. Perhaps people are blind to their own hypocrisies and contradictions, but others outside the box certainly aren't and it can be very confusing for those outside the box looking in to witness these constant contradictions.
My advice is if you or anyone else bumps into a walking, talking contradiction, to actually confront them on the matter, so that hopefully they can start seeing it for themselves and make some changes to prevent the contradictions from occurring so frequently.
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