So, I had an interesting back-and-forth the other day via e-mail. This lady, whom had just started e-mailing me, exchanged some dating stories with one another. After I told her about my recent bad luck when it comes to dating/love, she responded by saying something along the lines of, "It's one thing to be a nice guy (not a jerk) and another to not try to understand the communication of women. There's a book I think you should read. It'll help a lot more than you'd think. You've probably heard of it. It's called, 'Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus'. It sounds like you have quite a bit to learn."
No, this woman didn't know me well at all (for about two days), but still... For anyone who genuinely knows me could state, if anything, I try to understand women's communication too much. ...and come on? That book? The thing I don't like about such books is they generalize/stereotype the two sexes. While there may be some trends as far as the two genders go, each individual is different in one way or another, so I don't think it's ultimately accurate or fair to suggest that all men or women fit into one set of labels or another. Just because I'm male, I don't think it'd be fair for a woman (or women) to automatically assume I'm into action films, love football, am into rock music, like cars and tools, don't care much for reading or romance films, think as much with my lower as my upper head, am tough, stubborn, don't listen too well, am rather simple-minded, etc. Some of those labels may hold true for me, but not all of them and it's probably a rarity that they all hold true for people. So, I can't say I was too thrilled with that advice.
The funny thing is, I read a few observations and reviews regarding the before-mentioned book and based on the author's conclusions, it appears as if he believes I think more like a woman than a man. Perhaps my problem is I understand women's communication too well and this gets me into trouble, because they then see me more as a best friend/girlfriend and have difficulty in seeing me as a boyfriend/lover. Eh, it's just a thought.
No, this woman didn't know me well at all (for about two days), but still... For anyone who genuinely knows me could state, if anything, I try to understand women's communication too much. ...and come on? That book? The thing I don't like about such books is they generalize/stereotype the two sexes. While there may be some trends as far as the two genders go, each individual is different in one way or another, so I don't think it's ultimately accurate or fair to suggest that all men or women fit into one set of labels or another. Just because I'm male, I don't think it'd be fair for a woman (or women) to automatically assume I'm into action films, love football, am into rock music, like cars and tools, don't care much for reading or romance films, think as much with my lower as my upper head, am tough, stubborn, don't listen too well, am rather simple-minded, etc. Some of those labels may hold true for me, but not all of them and it's probably a rarity that they all hold true for people. So, I can't say I was too thrilled with that advice.
The funny thing is, I read a few observations and reviews regarding the before-mentioned book and based on the author's conclusions, it appears as if he believes I think more like a woman than a man. Perhaps my problem is I understand women's communication too well and this gets me into trouble, because they then see me more as a best friend/girlfriend and have difficulty in seeing me as a boyfriend/lover. Eh, it's just a thought.
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