The Kind-Hearted Smart Aleck

Alright, so where do I sign up? Set me up with somebody and we'll have to make this work. I'm guessing this arranger's taste for me in women is better than my own and there will be a better chance that things work out long-term if another chooses my partner for me than I. When I got to feeling better from a two-year illness in late-December of 2010, I felt a new kind of energy, a motivation I hadn't felt before and it let me to losing 20-25 additional pounds, writing books galore and putting myself back out on the dating market. Writing has gone well. I added some weight in the winter, but have already started losing it again. On the dating front? It's been a disaster! I'll give a rundown of this before-mentioned disaster and abbreviate all the names accordingly: 1) "M" - Had a crush on her for about 3-4 years. I was told she felt similarly. She gave me a bunch of signs that she was at least someone interested in/attracted to me, but then was fla...

It's been a while since I've seriously dated, so it feels like I'm having to learn all over again. I'm having to learn the game-playing manual, when to be straight-forward and when to hold back a bit, when to be completely honest and when to give a half-truth. I have to say, I'm not liking these new rules or rewritings of rules. The saying goes, "Don't hate the player, hate the game." My question is, if the players hate the game, why play the game in the first place? Then there would be no players or game. I've heard or read people say things such as, "When he/she asks you out, either say you'll have to get back to them after you've had time to check your schedule or say you're busy that night, but ask for a rain check, so as to not let them think you have a lot of free time, that you don't have much going on in your life, that sort of thing." Why? I don't understand this. If one is excited about the prospect of go...