I can't say I understand love, relationships, marriage, etc. I've never been in love. I've been single for a very long time. I've never been married. So, whatever one wants to do with their lives in the world of "love," so be it. Whatever makes them happy, as the saying goes.
However, as I haven't a firm grasp on the concept of love, neither do I understand some people's decisions when they claim to be in love. Over the past 6-12 months, I've heard of three such stories which have perplexed me to no end:
1) A woman who was beaten by her boyfriend (multiple times) kept running back to him before she finally realized it was best for she and her daughter (yes, a child was involved) to go elsewhere.
2) A woman whom was raped by her husband (they have two children) kept pondering on if she should go back to him or not. She went back and forth on it for a while, until she decided to leave him.
3) A woman (with two kids) was witness to her boyfriend, drunk, with a gun pointed toward his head and a shotgun nearby, only to save his life and take him to the hospital. As of this moment, they're still together.
In all three of these cases, kids were involved. In all three of these situations, I'd leave the guy without hesitation, because not only would he be endangering my life, but he'd be endangering my kids' lives. A man beating a woman? Who's to say he won't lose it and if the girlfriend isn't there, take it out on the child? Who knows what is possible with a man whom rapes a woman. Finally, with an alcoholic, whom has suicidal thoughts, and possession of guns, who's to say he couldn't get drunk one night, accidentally pull the trigger and take one of the kid's lives?
I don't understand. I think loyalty is a great thing. I've been cheated on before, so I, like other similar-experienced individuals, truly appreciate and long for loyalty. However, there is a line to be drawn between loyalty and (fill-in-the-blank). I'm not a parent, but I can tell you right now if someone I was with endangered my child in any manner, I would be out the door faster than a politician lies.
Like I said, I don't understand love anymore. I know several single, good guys (myself included), whom seem to have difficulty in attracting someone of our liking as more than a friend. However, I then hear about guys who beat, rape and almost kill women and... I just can't even think about it anymore.
However, as I haven't a firm grasp on the concept of love, neither do I understand some people's decisions when they claim to be in love. Over the past 6-12 months, I've heard of three such stories which have perplexed me to no end:
1) A woman who was beaten by her boyfriend (multiple times) kept running back to him before she finally realized it was best for she and her daughter (yes, a child was involved) to go elsewhere.
2) A woman whom was raped by her husband (they have two children) kept pondering on if she should go back to him or not. She went back and forth on it for a while, until she decided to leave him.
3) A woman (with two kids) was witness to her boyfriend, drunk, with a gun pointed toward his head and a shotgun nearby, only to save his life and take him to the hospital. As of this moment, they're still together.
In all three of these cases, kids were involved. In all three of these situations, I'd leave the guy without hesitation, because not only would he be endangering my life, but he'd be endangering my kids' lives. A man beating a woman? Who's to say he won't lose it and if the girlfriend isn't there, take it out on the child? Who knows what is possible with a man whom rapes a woman. Finally, with an alcoholic, whom has suicidal thoughts, and possession of guns, who's to say he couldn't get drunk one night, accidentally pull the trigger and take one of the kid's lives?
I don't understand. I think loyalty is a great thing. I've been cheated on before, so I, like other similar-experienced individuals, truly appreciate and long for loyalty. However, there is a line to be drawn between loyalty and (fill-in-the-blank). I'm not a parent, but I can tell you right now if someone I was with endangered my child in any manner, I would be out the door faster than a politician lies.
Like I said, I don't understand love anymore. I know several single, good guys (myself included), whom seem to have difficulty in attracting someone of our liking as more than a friend. However, I then hear about guys who beat, rape and almost kill women and... I just can't even think about it anymore.
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