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A Facebook debate regarding the "nice guy"

So, I saw a Facebook post today which aired a video clip of a guy reading a poem he had written about always being cast as the "nice guy" or in the "friend-zone" among the women he had been interested in either romantically or sexually. The guy said that if a man (a "nice guy" apparently) purchased a woman a gift in hopes that she would sleep with him in return, she didn't owe him anything. While I agree a woman never owes a guy sex, this video sparked a more elaborate debate on the whole "nice guy" concept and who exactly would be at fault if such a guy gets taken advantage of in any way. Here's what I had to say on the matter:

"The only thing women owe 'nice guys' is honesty. If he shows romantic interest in her or perhaps buys her something to indicate this, it's on her to be upfront with him and say, 'This was really sweet, but just so you know, I only see you as a friend.' 

If she says this and he continues to do such things, it's all on him when he gets turned down and hurt. However, if she isn't upfront and honest with him about matters, perhaps flirts with the guy and insinuates the romantic interest may be mutual, then in the end, she'll be giving the appearance that she's taking advantage of him on multiple fronts and when he finally confronts her on matters and asks how she feels about him, it likely won't end in a pretty manner.

When it comes to a 'nice guy' providing a woman with gifts in exchange for sex, a woman never owes a guy this, and I wouldn't refer to the before-mentioned guy as a 'nice guy,' considering the main objective of said gift was to get laid. I'd probably refer to him as a pseudo nice guy or something of the like. For a genuine nice guy, seeing the woman's joy and smile would be reward enough."
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