I got into a conversation with a couple people very close to me recently and while I was able to keep my cool, as usual, I almost went ballistic on them.
We were talking about family, and when discussing three specific family members and how we've kind of drifted apart from them through the years, the conversation soon transitioned to rape. Unfortunately, all three of these individuals were raped at one point or another, and also unfortunately, I've noticed differences in their behavior years after the horrific incidents - most likely due to said incidents.
For one reason or another, both people whom were accompanying me basically spoke in unison with one another and said, "It just makes you wonder why that is. I mean, all three of them? They all show a lot of cleavage. I wonder if that has anything to do with it. I'm not saying it's right or anything, but they were kind of asking for it."
I'm sure upon hearing this my eyes got as wide as saucers, my jaw clenched like someone with a severe case of TMJ, and steam may very well have emanated from my scalp. I was able to keep my composure, however, and just replied with this:
"Many women wear such clothes to receive looks and attention, to feel attractive - this could be due to insecurity or something else. However, no woman wears such clothing to get raped. They never really had a loving father in their lives. He was too busy doing drugs and cheating on his wife. So perhaps they've gone most of their lives feeling insecure about being able to win over a man's love, this has prompted them to wear showier clothing, and unfortunately, guys have, in turn, seen them more as sex objects than actual women. Regardless of the clothes they wear, though, that doesn't give any man the excuse to rape them or any other woman."
It really boggles my mind how so many men can drool over women whom wear provocative clothing, rave about how gorgeous and sexy they are, and then when they hear the woman was raped, they say, "Well, she was asking for it."
No she wasn't. The thing women ask for more than anything else is respect, and I'm sorry, but treating a woman like a sex object, and forcing oneself upon her for his own personal pleasure at the expense of her own personal misery is the furthest thing from respect imaginable. It's criminal, disgusting, and I'm frankly sick and tired of hearing people make excuses for them.
We were talking about family, and when discussing three specific family members and how we've kind of drifted apart from them through the years, the conversation soon transitioned to rape. Unfortunately, all three of these individuals were raped at one point or another, and also unfortunately, I've noticed differences in their behavior years after the horrific incidents - most likely due to said incidents.
For one reason or another, both people whom were accompanying me basically spoke in unison with one another and said, "It just makes you wonder why that is. I mean, all three of them? They all show a lot of cleavage. I wonder if that has anything to do with it. I'm not saying it's right or anything, but they were kind of asking for it."
I'm sure upon hearing this my eyes got as wide as saucers, my jaw clenched like someone with a severe case of TMJ, and steam may very well have emanated from my scalp. I was able to keep my composure, however, and just replied with this:
"Many women wear such clothes to receive looks and attention, to feel attractive - this could be due to insecurity or something else. However, no woman wears such clothing to get raped. They never really had a loving father in their lives. He was too busy doing drugs and cheating on his wife. So perhaps they've gone most of their lives feeling insecure about being able to win over a man's love, this has prompted them to wear showier clothing, and unfortunately, guys have, in turn, seen them more as sex objects than actual women. Regardless of the clothes they wear, though, that doesn't give any man the excuse to rape them or any other woman."
It really boggles my mind how so many men can drool over women whom wear provocative clothing, rave about how gorgeous and sexy they are, and then when they hear the woman was raped, they say, "Well, she was asking for it."
No she wasn't. The thing women ask for more than anything else is respect, and I'm sorry, but treating a woman like a sex object, and forcing oneself upon her for his own personal pleasure at the expense of her own personal misery is the furthest thing from respect imaginable. It's criminal, disgusting, and I'm frankly sick and tired of hearing people make excuses for them.
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