I was sent the following link, which I found to be interesting (said link can be found at the end of this post). It delves into the differences in communication styles between men and women, and judging from my own experiences and observations, it seems to be largely accurate.
Quite possibly the biggest problem when heterosexual couples communicate with one another isn't the communication itself, it's not understanding the other's communication style.
Ladies, when men don't give you direct eye contact when you're talking, this doesn't mean he's not listening. In fact, it could be a good indicator that he is listening. Let's face it, guys are easily distracted and when talking to a woman we find to be beautiful, if we look at her for too long, our minds will start to wander, before we wonder, "Wait... What was she talking about?" If we're looking away and appear to be focused, chances are we're listening. That is, unless our focus appears to be on a football game or a porno by the name of Get In The Hole.
Fellas, when women make listener-noise while you're speaking, this doesn't mean she's overreacting or being impatient. She's simply trying to illustrate that she's listening to you. If this listener-noise regularly includes the words, "What?" or "Huh?" however, then perhaps that's not the case.
Verbal communication is typically a very different beast for men and women. The important thing is for couples to try and learn more about one another's communication styles and be open about why they feel they're not being listened to or why they don't feel a certain level of emotional intimacy due to the misunderstandings in communication. If they can generate a greater understanding of how and why their partner communicates the way they do, are open about it, and their partner at least attempts to make some minor adjustments, then the misunderstandings will likely decrease, the emotional intimacy will likely increase, and the couples will be much happier as a result.
http://faculty.georgetown.edu/tannend/sexlies.htm
Quite possibly the biggest problem when heterosexual couples communicate with one another isn't the communication itself, it's not understanding the other's communication style.
Ladies, when men don't give you direct eye contact when you're talking, this doesn't mean he's not listening. In fact, it could be a good indicator that he is listening. Let's face it, guys are easily distracted and when talking to a woman we find to be beautiful, if we look at her for too long, our minds will start to wander, before we wonder, "Wait... What was she talking about?" If we're looking away and appear to be focused, chances are we're listening. That is, unless our focus appears to be on a football game or a porno by the name of Get In The Hole.
Fellas, when women make listener-noise while you're speaking, this doesn't mean she's overreacting or being impatient. She's simply trying to illustrate that she's listening to you. If this listener-noise regularly includes the words, "What?" or "Huh?" however, then perhaps that's not the case.
Verbal communication is typically a very different beast for men and women. The important thing is for couples to try and learn more about one another's communication styles and be open about why they feel they're not being listened to or why they don't feel a certain level of emotional intimacy due to the misunderstandings in communication. If they can generate a greater understanding of how and why their partner communicates the way they do, are open about it, and their partner at least attempts to make some minor adjustments, then the misunderstandings will likely decrease, the emotional intimacy will likely increase, and the couples will be much happier as a result.
http://faculty.georgetown.edu/tannend/sexlies.htm
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