A friend of mine recently told me that for whatever number of people a man or woman says they've slept with, you can multiply that by two or three to get a more accurate answer, due to one-night stands. Is this true? Are one night-stands that common? She has been known to get around as I found out not long ago and had lied to me about them all, so I'm not sure how credible a source she is. Is she actually being honest or attempting to make herself feel okay with her past decisions? As usual, I imagine the answer lies somewhere in the middle.
I myself have never engaged in a one-night stand and never will. I've been offered several times, especially in recent months at bars, but have turned all 8 or so of them down. Perhaps that's why there's a rumor going around that I'm gay. So, what's the appeal? A person is illustrating the ultimate trust in a complete stranger by giving them their body for a night, not knowing where the other person has been, if they possess a STD, are married, are a criminal, etc. That one night, he or she could make up an entirely false identity in order to bait the man/woman and slowly lure them in until they achieve their goal which is sleeping with them. I'd feel paranoid if I ever engaged in that with a woman. I'd feel dirty. I'd be paranoid about STD's and pregnancy (with regard to her, not myself). I'd want to immediately get tested.
I'd have to imagine alcohol and/or drugs is/are typically a factor in people engaging in said activity, as their inhibitions are severely reduced and with that, their decision-making won't be ideal. Even if that's the case, I don't see it as an excuse. I've rejected any and every person whom has offered me with sex while I've been intoxicated. It's not that difficult - No. It's just one syllable, equal to the word "yes," and even possesses one fewer letter than the latter term.
I'm about as liberal as they come (no pun intended, I don't believe), but have an issue with spreading my body around carelessly, risking disease, pregnancy and self-respect. I just hope all the stories I hear and read about are more of an aberration than a trend. I've kept myself as clean as is possible through the years, treated sex as something sacred and special, something I'll only allow myself to experience with someone very special in my life. I sometimes feel like I'm the only such person around anymore. Hopefully someone can prove me wrong and be only willing to engage in sex when it's in conjunction with love as opposed to just giving oneself up for pleasure void of love.
I myself have never engaged in a one-night stand and never will. I've been offered several times, especially in recent months at bars, but have turned all 8 or so of them down. Perhaps that's why there's a rumor going around that I'm gay. So, what's the appeal? A person is illustrating the ultimate trust in a complete stranger by giving them their body for a night, not knowing where the other person has been, if they possess a STD, are married, are a criminal, etc. That one night, he or she could make up an entirely false identity in order to bait the man/woman and slowly lure them in until they achieve their goal which is sleeping with them. I'd feel paranoid if I ever engaged in that with a woman. I'd feel dirty. I'd be paranoid about STD's and pregnancy (with regard to her, not myself). I'd want to immediately get tested.
I'd have to imagine alcohol and/or drugs is/are typically a factor in people engaging in said activity, as their inhibitions are severely reduced and with that, their decision-making won't be ideal. Even if that's the case, I don't see it as an excuse. I've rejected any and every person whom has offered me with sex while I've been intoxicated. It's not that difficult - No. It's just one syllable, equal to the word "yes," and even possesses one fewer letter than the latter term.
I'm about as liberal as they come (no pun intended, I don't believe), but have an issue with spreading my body around carelessly, risking disease, pregnancy and self-respect. I just hope all the stories I hear and read about are more of an aberration than a trend. I've kept myself as clean as is possible through the years, treated sex as something sacred and special, something I'll only allow myself to experience with someone very special in my life. I sometimes feel like I'm the only such person around anymore. Hopefully someone can prove me wrong and be only willing to engage in sex when it's in conjunction with love as opposed to just giving oneself up for pleasure void of love.
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